Right & Wrong

I realized this again yesterday, we are too caught up in attaching a 'right' or a 'wrong' meaning to everything. Anything that is not right, is automatically wrong, and anything that is not wrong, is automatically right. We do not realize that we are the ones attaching all the meanings.

I started with this book called 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle. I was reading it just now when I realized that it is a good book. I inquired within me, as to why I like the book. The answer was because this guy does not say that 'doing this is bad' or 'doing that is bad'. I then realized that no other writer had said so too. I had just attached that meaning to their writings. Some writer says that we are always trying to win the approval of others, trying to 'look good'. I take it as 'looking good is something bad'. But note that the writer had not said so. I then think that he 'implied' so. Well, NO! He may or may not have implied so. This is a meaning attached by me.

Yesterday, in the seminar, the topic of looking good came-up. I realized that if I go the mic to share (feeling confident), I am trying to look good. If I don't go (feeling fearful), I am avoiding looking bad. Then how do I get out of it? I then asked myself, why do I need to come out of it? 'Well, it is bad!'. And I realized that I had attached a meaning to it. Instead of being just present to how I try to look good, I tell myself it is not right to do it.

We are so caught up in right & wrong. But realize that they are not mutually exclusive. There can be no absolute in this. Right exists because something else is wrong. Right does not mean anything on it's accord. Like the two poles of a magnet. Even if you divide a magnet into infinitesimal piece, that piece will have two sides, one a North pole, the other a South pole. That is how right/ wrong or true/false are. One can exist only because the other does. And they are both created by us. Without someone to tell, there are no right & wrong. Right & wrong do not exist. Thing are the way they are. We attach right & wrong to everything. This is the way we become right. This is the way our ego becomes right.

We are all in it. You go through this blog and you'll see that at so many occasions I have meant that Ego is such a wrong thing. I may even have written it explicitly. And now I am telling myself that it was wrong to do that!

Just remembered a quote from the Matrix Reloaded: 'What happened, happened and could not have happened any other way'. It's meaning can alter. The event cannot.